Cunnilingus and Anilingus – The Art of Sensual Oral Sex Techniques

Oral sex is one of the most popular sex practices, besides vaginal penetration. Blow jobs are probably the first thing that comes to mind for many people. But what about cunnilingus and anilingus? Do you not really know what these sex practices are? Then it’s high time you discovered them. We’ve got everything you need to know about these two sex practices for your (or your partner’s) tongue. 😉

• The art of licking
• What is cunnilingus?
• 5 cunnilingus tips: guaranteed to send your partner out of their mind
• What is anilingus or rimming?
• 4 anilingus tips – be a pro at this anal sex practice

The art of licking

Satisfying someone with your hand or fingers has its attractions of course, and can lead to great orgasms. But using your tongue during sex makes the whole affair far more sensual and erotic, don’t you think? In our experience, getting your tongue involved in sex makes it more exciting, and leads to more enjoyable, gentler sensations. Your tongue is far softer and more agile than your finger, for example, which makes it impossible to escape thrilling orgasms. So, we think it’s time your tongue joined the game. 😉 And now, we’ll explain how!

What is cunnilingus?

Cunnilingus is the equivalent of a blowjob for men. A woman’s intimate area is fondled by her partner with their tongue and lips. The word comes from the Latin and is a combination of the words “cunnus” for vulva and “lingua” for tongue. Cunnilingus involves stimulating different parts of the women’s intimate area by licking using the tongue. That’s why it is sometimes called a “lickjob”. In the woman’s intimate area  there are 4 different areas that can be stimulated with the tongue: the mons Venus, the vulval lips, the clitoris and the vagina. Recognising these areas and knowing the best way to stimulate them is the first step to your partner’s next indescribable orgasm:

• The mons Venus is directly over the pubic bone. It is a raised mound of tissue that is best stimulated with kisses or gentle stroking.
• You might also call the vulva lips “labia”. They are parallel to the outside of the vulva. If your partner is sexually aroused, the vulva lips might swell. Licking, kissing, sucking or even nibbling them can be very arousing. Pay close attention to how your partner reacts. Every woman is sensitive in different ways when it comes to how they are touched. 😉
• The clitoris is one of the most important parts of the female intimate area. It’s not surprising that it’s described as the pleasure centre for women. Many women only actually orgasm if the clitoris is stimulated, either by itself or in addition to vaginal penetration. The clitoris has over 10,000 nerve endings in it. You might only be able to see and stimulate a pea-sized pearl at the top end of the vulva, but the clitoris actually extends far into the body and can be 9 to 12 cm large. During cunnilingus you can just focus on the clitoris of course. But you need to be careful if you go down that route. All those nerve endings mean you should only carefully lick the clitoris. Again, you need to pay attention to your partner’s reactions.
• The vagina is the muscular channel that leads into the woman’s body. You enter the vagina when you penetrate your partner vaginally. Anything is allowed here – you can lick, kiss and nibble the vagina. You can also enter the vagina with your tongue and stimulate your partner that way.

Now you know exactly which areas you can stimulate using your tongue during oral sex. We’ve got a few tips to guarantee that your partner will lose their mind thanks to your tongue during cunnilingus.

5 cunnilingus tips: guaranteed to send your partner out of their mind

1. Don’t start with the most sensitive spot 😉 Most of us know that many women are very aroused when their clitoris is licked. But this is also the most sensitive part of a woman’s body. It’s better to start by using your tongue to kiss, suck or gently bite the mons Venus or labia.
2. Look out for signals from your partner! If you know your partner well, you’ll know how she behaves if something feels good and also if it doesn’t feel so great. With cunnilingus, you should also watch how your partner moves her pelvis. If she moves the pelvis in your direction, then you’re doing everything right – keep going! However, if she moves her pelvis away from you, it’s a good idea to try something else. 😉
3. Use your fingers too. ✌️ As well as your lips and tongue, you can also use your finger. Insert it into your partner’s vagina at the same time, and try to stimulate the G-spot. Not every woman enjoys this. Watch how your partner responds to the combined stimulation of licking and a finger.
4. Use your tongue properly! Success with cunnilingus depends entirely on what you do with your tongue. It’s best to start with gentle circular movements and work along different parts of the female intimate area. After a bit, you can exert more pressure or also suck or lightly bite – depending on where you are and your partner’s sensitivity. You need variety and creativity for this. 😉
5. If she’s enjoying it, keep doing it: If you realise that your partner has almost reached orgasm, then don’t stop whatever you’re doing! If you suddenly start doing something different, your partner might get sidetracked and the orgasm you’re aiming for might not happen at all.

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What is anilingus or rimming?

As well as the blowjob and cunnilingus, there is also another oral sex practice: anilingus. This is where the anus is stimulated with the tongue or even the lips. This anal sex practice is also called “rimming” or a “rim job”. Stimulating the anus can be very arousing, because of the countless nerve endings in that area. The anal area is very sensitive, which is why the tongue is particularly good at stimulating it. The anus widens slightly when touched by the tongue and saliva, so many people use the sex practice rimming to prepare for anal sex. And of course, you should also always use personal lubricant during anal sex!

Anal sex in general and particularly anilingus or rimming are strange for many people at first, maybe because of hygiene. Many don’t dare to bring it up in a relationship. But it can all be worth your while. Pay attention to a couple of tips and reward your partner with some unforgettable moments.

4 anilingus tips – be a pro at this anal sex practice

1. Proper hygiene should always be your priority! Particularly around the anal area, many people have doubts and think stimulating the anus with the tongue is unhygienic. But just like the rest of the intimate area, it’s just a case of being clean. An anal douche can ensure that everything’s hygienic. We’ve written about this in the past, if you want to find out more. If you still have concerns, which is completely fine, maybe a dental dam is a solution. This can be placed over the anal area and used as protection against bacteria. Your partner can still feel stimulation using the tongue through it, and be aroused.
2. Take it slow: Penetrating the anus directly with the tongue can of course lead to an orgasm. However, you should go slowly so that your partner can enjoy the special stimulation for as long as possible. Maybe start with gentle kisses before you begin swirling your tongue around the outer edge of the anus. Try circular movements, they can be especially arousing. And of course, when rimming, you should always lick over the anus of your partner – it’s a key part of every rim job. But always pay attention to how your partner reacts, because…
3. Pay attention to whether your partner is enjoying it: Many people rave about rimming/anilingus and the orgasms they lead to, but that doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. Interpret your partner’s signals correctly and stop if you think they are not really enjoying what you’re doing. 😉 Talk openly about what felt great and what didn’t. Some things you might try once and decide they weren’t that enjoyable. Finding this out is all part of trying something different. 😊
4. Use these sex positions for anilingus: The important thing is that when rimming, the anus of the partner being stimulated must be easy to reach with the mouth and tongue. Doggy style and 69 can both work well. In this article we’ve put together a list of these and other sex positions that might work well for your next rim job. Try one! 😉

Oral sex practices are popular and can lead to intense orgasms. If you haven’t tried it before, now perhaps you’ll be tempted to give it a go. Have fun and enjoy breathtaking orgasms! 😉

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