Masturbation: Why a Good Relationship with Yourself Is Essential for Your Sex Life

Many people only do it when they’re single, and think there’s no need if they’re in a committed relationship. Yes, we’re talking about masturbation. Women in particular tend to completely stop loving and satisfying themselves once they’re in a relationship. But there are plenty of reasons why that’s not a good idea. Masturbation can even help you have a better sex life in your relationship. We’re going to talk about several reasons here that should convince you to think a bit more about yourself in the future. Curious? Keep reading to find out more.

Be coaxed into masturbating – 6 reasons why

1. Boost your self-esteem by loving yourself

Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves. How we evaluate ourselves, our characteristics and skills. How we perceive ourselves in a variety of different situations. Low self-esteem affects our entire life, and also our confidence and self-awareness. Masturbating can boost your feeling of self-worth, and therefore have several positive effects on you.

Touching yourself and exploring your own body can help you develop positive feelings towards it. Plus, when you have an orgasm your body releases happiness hormones which contribute to your wellness and also tell you that you are worthwhile. With masturbation, you accept yourself as you are – it doesn’t matter whether you are thin, have curves, are old or young. You are you, and that’s great.

2. Discover your own needs and explore your body

Do you focus on your pleasure points, in fact, do you even know what they are? Touching yourself and getting to know your own body will help you express your desires during sex with your partner. Consciously being aware of your own body and exploring it gives you the security you need to get to know yourself and your needs as a person. Exploring your body will also teach you new ways to climax, which in turn has a positive impact on your sex life within your relationship. You know your vulva and clitoris best if you regularly satisfy yourself, and you can then use this knowledge when you have sex with your partner.

3. Awaken your fantasies and your sex drive

As the saying goes, “Appetite comes with eating”. If you satisfy yourself, that can also make you want to have sex more with your partner. Perhaps you have even fantasised about things you’d like to do with your partner. Talk about them and give yourself a satisfying sex life.

4. Let yourself go and switch off

Switching off during sex and letting yourself go can open you up to a range of new possibilities in your sexuality. But, as we’ve already seen in a previous post,  it’s not always easy to switch off your thoughts. When you masturbate, you don’t have to please anyone else, nor do you have any kind of performance pressure to live up to. This often makes solo sex more relaxing – you climax without a lot of pressure and generally with greater success, in your very favourite way. There’s really no easier way to let go and just switch off. So, what are you waiting for? 😉

5. Give yourself a satisfying sex life

It actually seems that only women need to be coaxed into masturbating. As a rule, men masturbate, both when single and in a relationship, considerably more frequently than women. But it can be important for both men and women to satisfy themselves. Because you decide for yourself how you do it, what you fantasise about, how often you climax and where you’d rather be touched. You don’t have to explain to anyone why you’re into one particular thing right now. And while you’re doing it, you learn a huge amount about yourself and your needs.

6. Do it for your health

On top of all the positive aspects for your psyche and your sex life, masturbation is also good for your health. The hormones released when you orgasm don’t just reduce your stress levels – they also relax you, which can help you sleep better. They strengthen your immune system, and for women masturbation also has one other unbeatable advantage: it can help to mitigate period pains and prevent headaches. In addition, the contractions during an orgasm help women train their pelvic floor and the pubococcygeus. These muscles don’t just support the internal organs and give you an upright posture; they also play a part in a sensual sexuality.

So, let’s sum up all 6 reasons why you should think about masturbating in the future:  

• It boosts your self-esteem
• It helps you get to know your own needs and explore your body
• It awakens your fantasies and your sex drive
• It helps you completely let go and switch off
• It gives you a satisfying sex life
• It is good for your health

Masturbation should become part of your self-image too. While many men learn how to do it in puberty, lots of women just don’t consciously think about it. Unfortunately!

We love self-satisfaction, masturbation, self-love or whatever else you want to call it. And you should too. You need to know your own body, know what’s good for it, and then talk about it with your partner to guarantee you have a satisfying sex life. Because that is one thing your sex life should always be – satisfying for you!

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