Squirting: Is Female Ejaculation Actually a Thing?

So, when did you first hear about the latest major trend squirting? It’s been a popular theme in the porn industry for quite a while although it wasn’t something that was widely known – yet now it’s all anyone’s talking about. Many people still think it’s accidental, or even just a myth. But it isn’t. Female ejaculation really is possible and can even be caused deliberately. So, scroll on to find out more about female ejaculation, vaginal dryness, lubrication, and the top trend – squirting.

Different vaginal moisture levels

Let’s start at the beginning: did you know that women’s vaginas can have very different moisture levels, ranging from dry and to almost excessively wet? Some women suffer from vaginal dryness, then there’s the body’s own lubrication, and finally, the latest trend – squirting.

We think that at some point in their life, almost every woman will have problems getting wet. Stress, hormonal fluctuations, menopause, traumas, depression, and taking the birth control pill or anti-depressant are the most common causes for lack of lubrication. It’s important not to put yourself under any pressure. You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of – whether you suffer from vaginal dryness or excessive wetness. There are other causes for vaginal imbalance too, however there is an easy remedy, particularly for vaginal dryness: personal lubricant. And of course, we can tell you everything you need to know about using personal lubricants.

Your body’s lubrication is as unique as you – because being aroused does not automatically mean being wet, and being wet does not automatically mean you’re aroused. Communication is very important during sex with your partner. If you feel aroused but struggle to get wet, wait a bit and/or say what you need to really get going.  At this point, we want to emphasize that not all women can get wet to the same extent every time – but don’t forget, the right personal lubricant is out there for everyone.

A study discovered that using personal lubricant can be connected to feeling greater pleasure during sex. Women in the study agreed that sex felt better when using a personal lubricant, and the additional wetness made it easier to have an orgasm.

But what is squirting? 

For those who are new to the squirting game and might need a theoretical introduction to what squirting actually is…

Squirting happens when the G-spot or G-zone is stimulated during sex, because when women are strongly aroused, something known as the Skene gland (or the female prostate) becomes active. This a sponge-like structure discharges fluid known as female secretion. When a woman squirts, this mixture of uric acid (no, not urine in the normal sense) flows from the urethra. But it’s important to know that not all women can squirt and that it’s certainly not essential!

What is the difference between squirting and female ejaculation?

Female ejaculation is a small amount of fluid that comes from the female prostate and can be secreted by women vaginally when they are really sexually aroused. Squirting is the complete opposite, because a large amount of fluid comes out of the urethra. Fun fact: when a woman squirts, she can release up to 0.2 liters of fluid.

We’ll say it again: female ejaculation and squirting are not the same. They are two different processes (although they can theoretically happen at the same time). Female ejaculation involves a very small secretion, and squirting a large one, and of course both can vary from body to body. Squirting is certainly not THE only way to enjoy sex, and it’s not necessarily a sign of good sex either. 

Three golden rules for squirting

Ok, now we know what the squirting fluid is, that not every woman can squirt, and that it’s no guarantee for the man that the woman enormously enjoyed sex. Now, let’s find out how you (might) be able to squirt:

1. Intense stimulation is important: If you want your partner to get you squirting, they need to focus on intense foreplay. (Little tip, fingers are best 😉)
2. You need that extra something for squirting: personal lubricant! To get you squirting, your partner needs to put a generous amount of personal lubricant on their hands – which will make everything feel even better for the woman.
3. The right sex position: It works best if you’re lying on your back with your legs spreadeagled, and a cushion under your tush. This position makes it easy for your partner to stimulate both your G-spot and your clitoris.

Spoiler: You can’t learn how to squirt, because the gland responsible is slightly different for each woman, and very few women report actually ejaculating or squirting.

That leads to the more general question, how does an orgasm happen?

Just like female sexuality, the female orgasm is an incredibly complex phenomenon. During sex there are different states of arousal. They follow a particular pattern and can be divided into four distinct stages:

• There’s the excitement phase, where everything kicks off and the body prepares itself.

• The plateau phase: here the degree of arousal increases, bringing you to the brink of orgasm.

• During the orgasm phase, a state of ecstasy is achieved. For women this phase can last up to a full minute. 😉

• Finally, there is the resolution phase, when you come back down to normal, and are completely relaxed.

This explains why the big finale of sexual desire is such a welcome balm for both body and soul. And no need for a fitness studio or meditation app. How practical. 😉   

We’ve looked at how female ejaculation can vary from woman to woman and the many factors connected to it, for example vaginal dryness. We’ve also found out about the trend squirting, that you can’t actually learn it, and that it isn’t an ESSENTIAL for your sex life. Only one thing matters: you need to feel good and enjoy yourself!

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