How to Get Yourself in the Mood for Great Sex in 2025
7 January 2025
We all know how it goes with new year’s resolutions: When January 1 rolls around, we always vow to exercise more, eat better, or make more time for ourselves. But how many of these resolutions do we actually stick to? Most of the promises we make to ourselves are broken within the first few weeks – if we even manage to implement them at all. So how about turning over a new leaf for 2025 and making some fun resolutions that you’ll actually want to keep? This year, we want to help you find new ways to experience pleasure and get in the mood for sex – all year round. With this goal in mind, we’ve put together our top tips to inject more passion into your sex life. Read on to get 2025 off to a great start between the sheets.
- Low sexual desire
- How to boost your libido this year
- Date as a couple
- Try new things
- Inject some fun with partner-swapping or role play
- Get playful with toys
- Reach for lubricants and other intimate products
- Reignite desire with photos and messages
- Experiment with abstinence
- Are you up for a sex challenge?
- Your resolution for 2025: Boost your sexual desire
Low sexual desire
All too often, the stresses of everyday life can cause us to put intimacy and sexual desire on the back burner – and this is particularly true for women. That spark of attraction and desire we experience at the very beginning of a new relationship is something that we all look back on fondly, but many couples experience a drop in desire as the relationship becomes more established and routine. While this is a completely normal development in a relationship, with a little effort, it’s possible to keep the spark alive. The start of the new year – when we’re all feeling that little bit more motivated to stick to our resolutions – is the perfect time to work on bringing back the excitement. 
Top tips for a passionate 2025
Date as a couple
At the start of a relationship, most couples go out on regular dates: You might arrange to eat at a restaurant, go to the movies, or do some other activity as a couple. When did the two of you last do something together? Did you both make an effort, get dressed up, and consciously spend time together? For many couples, their last date will be a distant memory. But spending time together helps build the intimacy that you need to have a great sex life. Pencil in a date night with your partner once a month. If you can make it once a week, that’s even better! You could go out to a favorite restaurant that you enjoyed together during the early days of your relationship, or rewatch the movie that you saw on your first date. There are so many different ways you can enjoy spending time together; all you have to do is find a slot to do it. If you schedule dates in advance, you’ll find it easier to enjoy one-on-one time as a couple.
Try new things
In long-term relationships, it’s easy to fall into a predictable everyday routine – and when that predictability creeps into your sex life, too, it can become an issue. Couples can easily get stuck in a rut of sticking to the same positions and not making time to try out new things. But if you want to switch things up, there are sure to be plenty of techniques you’ve not yet experimented with together. For example, how about having sex in an unusual location? You could try being intimate in a new location at home or even in a public place, but whatever you choose, you’ll soon see just how easy it is to break away from your routine and have more fun with your sex life. The most important thing is not to get caught and not to disturb anyone else. If risk-taking isn’t your thing, there are lots of other unusual sex trends you can try out. If you want to keep things a little more tame, even just a sensual massage will help build intimacy with your partner and boost your desire for sex.
Inject some fun with partner-swapping or role play
Partner-swapping and role play might not be for everyone, but if you’re willing to give these more adventurous options a try, they could be a great way to spice up your sex life and boost your sexual desire toward your partner. If you want to dive straight in, you can start your partner-swapping journey at a swinger’s club. Or if you want to explore the role play side of things, simply switching up the roles you normally assume during sex can really ramp up the excitement. If you’re always the dominant partner, try taking on a more submissive role and let your partner be the dominant one.
Get playful with sex toys
Have you ever shopped for sex toys with your partner? Whether you shop online or visit a store together, the excitement of trying out your purchases when you get home can help to boost sexual desire. There are so many sex toys out there that there’s sure to be something you’ll both enjoy. If you want to turn up the heat even more, get your partner to go shopping for a sex toy on their own, without telling you what they pick. You can do the same – and then you get to explore your new purchases together.
Reach for lubricants and other intimate products
Low libido is very common in women, so last year pjur launched a water-based gel designed specifically to stimulate the clitoris. pjur WOMAN Lust enables women to control their orgasms and add a real buzz to their sex lives. The gel begins to work within two seconds of application and stimulates the clitoris for up to 15 minutes. As the gel is water-based, it is fully compatible with sex toys like clitoral vibrators. For those who want even more intensity, we’ve also developed pjur WOMAN Lust Intense, which delivers a more intense sensations that will take your sexual desire to new heights.
Our range of lubricants can also bring more fun to your sex life and enhance your intimate moments together. Our silicone-based products are perfect for spoiling your partner with a sensual massage. Why not browse our store together and choose your favorite products to try out in the new year? If you prefer water-based products, we’ve got plenty of options for you to choose from too.
Reignite desire with photos and messages
If you want to make your sex life more passionate and exciting, remember that the sex itself is only one part of the puzzle; there are things you can do before and after, too. Think back to the early days of your relationship: Did you send your partner naughty messages or even sexy photos? For some reason, we usually stop doing this kind of thing once we’re in a long-term relationship. Let your partner know if you’re feeling frisky: A bit of sexting and a few “nelfies” (naked selfies) can really turn up the heat. Once you get the ball rolling, your partner will hopefully start sending you some sexy messages back. By building up the anticipation before you see one another again, your reunion is sure to be hotter than usual.
Experiment with abstinence
Abstinence can help to build some sexual tension and reignite your spark. Many couples are together virtually all the time and have forgotten what it’s like to miss their partner. If this sounds like you, why not agree to go without sex (and masturbation ) for a few weeks? At some point, you’ll notice that your desire for one another has gone through the roof. Try abstaining in January and plan a sexual reunion for February. You can agree to stay away from all sexual activity during the abstinence period, or you can decide that certain activities are allowed, like making out and touching. But refraining from having sex will take your desire to new heights.
Are you up for a sex challenge?
How would you feel about having sex every day in January? It’s an ambitious goal, and it’s not something that all couples will be interested in or even have time for. However, you can set the terms of your own sex challenge; it doesn’t have to be about having sex every single day. Perhaps you could give yourselves a goal of spending time together as a couple three times a week. Get creative – the only limit is your imagination! You could even set yourselves a few intimacy-related tasks and complete them on specific dates in January. The main thing is that you increase your desire for one another and have fun with whatever challenge you go for!
Your resolution for 2025: Boost your sexual desire
We hope that these tips have been helpful in getting your new year off to a passionate start. Make 2025 a year where you focus on yourselves, your relationship, and your sex life. Your own sexual desire – and that of your partner – should be your priority for the new year and beyond. Have fun exploring and rediscovering your passion!
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